Grow happy with educating affection.
Children need physical contact and attention.
"Children need physical contact and attention," say the researchers. (Article published in The Harvard University Gazette) By Alvin Powell.
The American attitude of "stop mourn the children" can lead to more fears and problems in adults, according to two researchers from Harvard Medical School. Instead of leaving the children mourn, American parents should keep their children close, console them when they cry and take them to bed with them, where they feel safe, said Michael L. Commons and Patrice M. Miller, the two researchers from the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.
This pair of researchers examined childrearing practices here and in other cultures and believe that the practice of placing children in separate beds or even in separate rooms and do not respond promptly to their cries may lead to incidents of post-traumatic stress panic-related disorders when these children reach adulthood. An early stress resulting from separation causes changes in the brain models that makes children more susceptible to stress as adults.
"thefosterparentswouldhave have to admit that leaving their children mourn unnecessarily makes them permanent damage," says Commons.
"This changes the nervous system so that they are far more sensitive to future trauma."
The work of these researchers at Harvard is unique because it uses an inter and multidisciplinary approach:
examines brain function, learning children's emotional and cultural differences, according to Charles R. Figley, director of the Traumatology Institute at Florida State University and editor of The Journal of Traumatology.
"It is very rare and very important to find this type of multidisciplinary research," Figley said.
"takes into account the differences between cultures in emotional response to stress and ability to handle stress, including traumatic stress."
Figley said that the work of these researchers has opened the way for further studies and could have very broad implications, from the efforts of parents to stimulate their children intellectually to practices such as circumcision.
Commons has been a lecturer and research associate in the Department of Psychiatry at the Medical School since 1987 and program is a member of the Department of Psychiatry and the Law
Miller has been a research associate in the same program since 1994 and is an assistant professor of psychology at Salem State College since 1993. He earned a master's and doctorate in Human Development at the Graduate School of Education.
The two researchers say that the way to raise children in America is influenced by the fear that children grow up too dependent. But they say parents are on the wrong track: physical contact and security will make children safer and more able to form adult relationships when they finally leave the world alone.
"We have given much importance independence this is having very negative effects, "says Miller.
The two were the focus of attention in February when they presented their ideas at the annual meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science in Philadelphia. Commons and Miller
compared (...) American childrearing practices with those of other cultures, particularly those of the Gusii of Kenya. Gusii mothers sleep with their children and respond quickly when they cry.
"Gusii mothers, which was shown videotapes in which they could see how acting American mothers, were affected by what the Americans were slow to respond to the cries of their children. "Commons and Miller say in their work on the subject.
The way we raise it effects our society in general.
The Americans in general do not like to be touched and pride themselves on independence taken to the extreme of loneliness, even when they pass a difficult or stressful season. Although conventional wisdom is that children should learn to sleep alone, Miller believes many parents "cheat" and remain a child in his room, at least initially. He also believes that once the children know crawl, many find the way to the room with parents without help.
American parents would not have to worry about this behavior or be afraid to treat infants and babies, Commons and Miller.
Parents should feel free to sleep with their children, having them around, possibly on a mattress in the room, and comfort them when they cry.
"There are ways to grow independent children without having them do go through this trauma," Commons said.
"My advice is to give children safe so they can grow and take risks."
Besides fear of making them dependent, the pair of researchers say other factors that have helped shape our way of raising our children.
Among them, fear that interfere with children's sexual life partner when sharing room with parents and concern about whether a baby could be crushed by one parent if they share the bed.
Similarly, having more money has helped in the separation of families, because they have larger homes with separate rooms for each child.
The result, Commons and Miller, is a nation that likes to take care of their children, a violent nation marked by weak and distant relations, a little physical.
"I think in our culture we are reluctant to care our children, "Commons said.
"I think the punishment and abandonment has never been a good way to train people caring, empathetic and independent."
Source:
Translation by Andera.
http://www.news.harvard.edu/gazette/1998/04.09/ChildrenNeedTou.html
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