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Child does not cry, do not learn - By Zoquete
born young, I could say that much younger than the average people. Nothing else to do, ran his big black eyes the delivery room, he frowned and wrinkled her chin. I suffered a great shock, because nobody had warned me about the color purple that could arise. Moreover, its expression was not unkind, I would almost say that even hostile. I recognize myself simpleton, but could jurarles in this magical moment had not yet had time to prove it. In fact, my attitude was more discreet, if not submissive. Fortunately most experienced staff that a server is responsible for cleaning and dress it, it goes without saying that at that time my pulse was not for large watermarks.
not abated quickly, close your eyes and take an angelic expression. My exhaustion seemed to disappear, which is not to say the least, especially after sixteen hours of tension in the hospital, passive and clumsy to suffering my love, having eaten only a couple of cafes and a mini cheese sandwich, with the collapse of unwelcome phone calls (all, no exceptions) and medical equipment in and out without hardly flinching. Undoubtedly, some leakage should be oxytocin, because then I felt an awesome new breath. Decide
reconciled with the world. The people are lovely and the flowers are the symbol of the miracle of nature.
Big mistake.
not spend more than forty-eight hours and receive a first and loving advice: "The child will catch cold as well. What irresponsible, how to note are first-timers! "" Excuse me lady, Do we know? "My instincts aggressive recover their privileges and decide that the crime has its mitigation.
was just the start: "This child is hungry, you'll note that the mouth moves and, especially, not to mourn," "no, what is the child's sleep, I thought I saw a yawn from crying and crying, "Not to mention, it's colic, I know because I scream like raising my neighbor" ...
Thus, in this my short experience I have identified two important principles:
The first is the impressive body of knowledge that has the most unexpected people: "Everybody knows babies. " We have the provision of multiple data readers attest, including the case of one neighbor who thought autistic and now seems to have received a crash course to smile. By the way, reader, what do you know Baby? No, better not tell me, hopefully for the corollary, which states: "Everyone says about your baby, you know or not." Needless to say, so much information covers a wide range of positions, often contradictory, if not surreal ...
The second principle can be understood as the result of collecting data from the first principle: "The good education of the child is to have an array of resources, ways or tricks to silence her crying. " As a diligent student cite some examples, sure they are familiar: Plug the pacifier, bottle, finger or whatever, rocking, singing a tribal song, place it face down, sitting place, place it face up, put the left side, place the side wrong, shake until it looks like an epileptic, rocking Morfeo invoking God as the only meaningful project "2001: A Space Odyssey, Kubrick, especially the psychedelic sequence of the long version, and the joker par excellence, nursing, valid whether you are hungry and cold, or sleep, or concerns, Or fear, pain, anger, warmth, anxiety, heartburn, dizziness, gas, curiosity or just a slip?
But doubts have only just started, because our country paradoxically in this pluralistic, open and progressive, publicly display such wildcard is reminiscent obscene, or characteristic of the "National Geographic" (according to "La Vanguardia" in an article of 27 and 28 February, citing the attack suffered a mother who was disqualified for feeding your child in a driving school).
embarrassing question (almost never better), what we do and who we should ask council to educate the child?
immediate response would be the professional, the pediatrician. One can always take you to court if something goes wrong. But what if you're obsessed with posting on the "Nature" of their scientific research, precisely that which seeks to demonstrate statistically that put babies to sleep clinging to the feet as bats stimulates blood flow in the brain and soothes the trauma the abandonment of the fetal position?
also has in-law and mothers, after all us children, we are the perfect examples of their know-how ... example, discarded.
is the happy couple of friends who have just experienced the same experience a couple of months before, have fresh ideas, they just see nerds but nonetheless they overcome the difficulties. In addition, he and I went hand in glove in college, partying with some impressive ... unpresentable, in fact, I remember that he loved the pedophile jokes. Look for another alternative.
you end up choosing to deal with someone on the street at random and ask. After all no reason to advise evil, and to demonstrate what they know or presume to experience ... Our candidate turned out to be a bookseller. Now we have a shelf crammed with multiple volumes as "baby chart. Includes computer application to manufacture it, "Childhood traumas resulting from the color of your furniture," "Do not have a child mediocre training plan for children two to five months", etc ... These fell
"Sleep Child," Dr. Estivill, book that you can insult, ignore, contradict or even respond, as few reactions may have against us: no less innocuous paper and ink. However important consideration shows that, if not directly, we can help solve many of the questions above. In fact, although the book is known for its success solving the habit of sleeping of babies, I personally consider throwing suggestions which may extend to other aspects of education of children, including the ability to teach them to eat with a straw. Let
. If I should stay with three of his ideas, appoint: routine, calm and self-sufficiency.
Routine: if the child adapts to a schedule, your body and mind are synchronized with their expectations, and so will the hunger when you usually eat and sleep when they usually sleep. Otherwise it is basically unpredictable, and will give us smiles or cries when you least expect it.
Quietness: the child perceives the mood of parents who influence on their own. If adults are irritable, the baby can stand, because they have love, but despite his tender age has also its patience.
Self-Sufficiency: The child must know that, although we see, we're fine. It is normal that the child sleep alone worry about how you can be sure that their parents are safe? If the baby falls asleep because she cradled or give chest, covered his face with his hand or take you on walks through the streets of the city, when you wake up in the middle of the night and not find us think something terrible is us has occurred.
The title has earned quite good reputation among a group of parents negligible desperate anxiety of their offspring at bedtime, but above all by the miraculous cessation of intermittent murga enjoyed during the night until dawn. Has been very successful sales and has also emerged as an other type of pocket and "Quick Guide" that includes a DVD, probably for parents couch potatoes, or stressed or simply lazy.
The author ensures a 96% success and justify the failure of the 4% remaining after a misapplication of the method or of psychological problems, including trauma such as parental separation or interference type hysterical cries morning.
Yet there are detractors who consider the proposal to a savage, almost opposite the healthy aging "on demand" so food like mime or sleep. Simplifying
positions, while the proposed book would be to regulate the child's habits to beat the clock, although this has to endure her tears with a time table "reasonable" to hold the baby cries, preaches instinctive school which is the small one who should be our clock, biorhythm and alarm.
Some say that such a behavioral philosophy affects the emotional state of the king of the house. Unfortunately because it is a very recent method is difficult to foresee the consequences that will, perhaps generating a new type of psychopaths. It is also possible that the hardness of the method more than a scare, making educational rigidity remember the past.
As personal experience, in our case we decided not to test the method. Despite our clear trend sadistic and our desire to start the child in such a philosophy as soon as possible, the method has the disadvantage of limited to no more than a week without providing any guidelines for extending it for longer. Another further disadvantage is the author's insistence on the need for consistency by both parents, without conflicts or conflicting versions, as we prefer to offer our education chair based on two radically opposed views, for the sake of greater critical capacity. Using
further reflection, we decided to stop crying, using a fairly sophisticated method, perhaps too cruel, but life is hard. Every day we let him watch TV with us. No crashes, while Roque is also necessary for the baggage becomes imbued with human misery. As practice sessions, we always ready for the enjoyment of those visits necessary, to free us from the yoke of those times dictatorial "what monkey see if I smile, let me pet him, provoke a laugh, check that the toy is interactive" . In this way we sleep happy knowing that we are encouraging the child to express itself.
As a final note, looking to the future, why be so obsessed with the peace, serenity and emotional balance, if it's hot, what sells, attitudes are neurotic, unbalanced, boastful, the famous fifteen minutes of fame to which everyone wants? And while we're with all these thoughts, he continues to grow. When you least expect comes with your partner to announce that it has decided to stop living with us, so you just echándonos the house ...
The truth is that for now, for better or worse, just practice weeping, fits like a clock to our chaotic times and we continue to see our favorite shows without interruption. It may be a good time to demand new responsibilities, such as changing a little repertoire of cuties who smile so tired and silly, but we must not be impatient. Will tell the next fourteen, when he turns his fourth month ...
Needless to say, the author takes full responsibility for all the comments made in this opinion, for every mother or father has every right to delegate his responsibilities in any fashion, book or geese varies.
Zoquete
Taken from the author's personal blog, impertinent MISCELLANEOUS which you can visit and leave your opinion on this link: http://zoquete.blogspot.com/2006/02/nio-que-no-llora-no-aprende-propsito.html
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